Likely, each one of us has been touched by the tragedy of suicide. For those of you who have personally lost a relative or friend, I grieve with you. For those of you struggling with mental health - read on - Kay Warren shares hope today by bringing mental health into the light.
Bringing Mental Health Into the Light
By Kay Warren
Growing up in church we didn't talk much about our problems, much less about emotional problems. If we did, it was mostly in hushed whispers, and we said things like "She had a nervous breakdown." I never knew what a nervous breakdown was, but I knew it was something I didn't want to ever happen to me or to someone I loved. And nobody - absolutely nobody - talked about suicide.
But then suicide knocked on my door and I couldn't pretend anymore that it didn't exist. A sweet neighbor who found herself in the middle of an unwanted divorce left her suicide note on my front porch. I made frantic calls and left notes on her locked gate to let me know she was ok. But later that day the call I had been dreading came; she had shot herself and was not going to survive.
Years later suicide drew even closer as the husband of my dear cousin, a wonderful, warm and caring pastor of small churches in Texas, took his life when the shame and guilt of financial difficulties and a secret alcohol addiction overwhelmed him.
Then suicide came to my family. My funny, creative, loving and severely mentally ill son, Matthew, killed himself after decades of pain and suffering. His hopelessness almost became my hopelessness as I went down into the depths of catastrophic grief and loss.
Major depression and anxiety were present for my neighbor, my cousin's husband and for my son. Fear and dread of perhaps a bleak future colored their thinking until they couldn't see any other way out. Depression is not only hard to live with, it can be lethal.
With millions of people around the world living with varying levels of depression - including me - we have to get better at disclosing it, talking about it, seeking help, and continuing to offer hope to each other.Communities of faith can embrace those suffering with mental illnesses, offering solace, comfort, practical help and unconditional love - especially when depression doesn't go away.
I have the utmost respect for people living with depression and anxiety - those who continue to trust Jesus and follow him even when it seldom feels good. Let's admit it - when you feel good, it's fairly easy to trust God and believe that he is in control of the details of your life, and to have hope that pesky problems will resolve themselves quickly. Praise and worship songs stir your emotions and you lift your hands in joyful abandon. But when the dark thoughts of doom, despair, anxiety, and fear become your constant companions - even though you're doing everything you know to do to feel better - trusting God, believing better days are ahead, and retaining hope become epic feats of courage and endurance.
We honor military heroes - rightly so, because they are willing to offer their lives for the good of our country. But there are other heroes, mostly unrecognized and unsung, who get up day after day to face the deafening roar or the toxic whisper of depression that taunts them to give in; to end it all. There are beautiful heroes who refuse to surrender their joy to the voices that never stop reminding them of their brokenness, their perceived failure and unworthiness. These brave men and women have much to teach us about faith and trust and mostly, about HOPE.
So don't hide your struggle, please. Instead, teach the rest of us how to live courageously even when it doesn't feel good. We need you!
If you or someone you know is having thoughts suicide, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). For additional resources please visit KayWarren.com/Suicide.
Kay Warren, co-founder of Saddleback Church with her husband, Rick, is an international speaker, best-selling author, and Bible teacher who has a
passion for inspiring and motivating others to make a difference with their lives. She is best known as a tireless advocate for those living with mental illness, HIV & AIDS, and the orphaned and vulnerable children left behind. As an advocate, she has traveled to 19 countries, calling the faith community as well as the public and private sectors to respond with prevention, care, treatment and support. Kay is also a board member of the National Action Alliance for Suicide Prevention.
Reprinted with permission.